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Unable to change

Years and years ago, I heard this joke. The man who stands his ground permanently, never gets to take his trousers off!

Geddit?

Which brings me to more recent times, a fortnight ago to be exact. I was in Hong Kong and not knowing what to bring my friends living there, I hit on the al-cheapo idea of passing them copies of a book of poems I self-published ages ago and which entirety can be found here.

A present! And help me to reduce unsold stock taking up shelf space. 🙄

As usual, those to whom I’ve presented these remnants will thank me, put away the slim volume and never read it at all.

But not the young woman (daughter of a new friend) working in HK crunching Big Data.

A day after her mum passed her my poems and we were making our way to dinner, she said: “I like your poem No 56! About the inability to change”

Huh! No kidding! Not only did she read the poems or at least some of them. She even remembered the title and what it said.

It was the best compliment I have ever received for my “literary” efforts!

And to mark that compliment I am reproducing the poem here.

56. He is restless.
He keeps looking for change
in new faces
in new places.
But how can anything be
different
when he brings
himself
wherever he goes?

Aiyah, learn to live with less, lah!

So, the single Singaporean, 35 years or older and earning $5,000 or less a month, will soon be able to join the queue buying HDB flats direct from the Government.

You would think this group of singletons would think themselves lucky. But no! Judging from what I’ve read in the SG newspapers, some potential beneficiaries are unhappy with the size of the homes they would be offered.

These quibble that the 375 sq to 485 sq ft units priced from as little as $100,000 — which incidentally isn’t enough nowadays to buy a brand new basic car!!! — are too small for them. Never mind that after a promised $15-K grant from an increasingly populist inclined G/PAP, the flat would cost less than a COE, muwahhaha!

The ungrateful comments remind me of that Cantonese saying: given a bed, would demand a blanket!

I’ve just visited a Singaporean friend who has lived in Hong Kong for two thirds of her life. Her home in the Sheung Wan area measures all of 400 sq ft but the useable area is some 10 to 15% less. It’s in fact a converted office unit with many offices in the 17-storey building having been similarly converted into homes.

I’ve not seen a cuter dwelling. Friend has a fully equipped kitchen complete with built-in electric oven, bathroom and toilet and a full-size washing machine. But she has no cupboard for her clothes or a bed. She sleeps on a futon on the floor while her clothes are hung in an alcove screened off by a discreet curtain.

She’s not my only Singaporean friend who lives in such a tiny flat. Another who moved to London a dozen years ago lives in the top-class district of Buckingham Gate. Her home — across the road from the New Scotland Yard building — is all of 180 sq ft.

As I’ve never visited her, I can’t vouch for how truly titchy it is but my friend tells me, her bed folds into the wall and she has a bathroom, toilet and all the other stuff that makes modern living comfortable in that space 🙄

Now if neither of these examples underline what a gr8 consolation prize our increasingly populist inclined G/PAP is offering Singaporean singletons of lesser means, then let me share an NYT article which my friend Bubur Hitam sent me about living with less.

For ease of reference, I’ve reproduced the whole article at the bottom of this post. For those who want the hundreds of comments the article has attracted, go here and here

After digesting the information, I hope that more Singaporeans, single or otherwise, would seriously consider doing more with less.

Here our increasingly populist inclined G/PAP — especially Minister Khaw Boon Wan — should take a new lead. Instead of doing war dances over shoe-box homes, G/PAP and Mr Khaw should preach the benefits and practicalities of doing with less space in exchange for more time, money and leisure: To live well with 7 million or more!

The New York Times

March 9, 2013

Living With Less. A Lot Less.

By GRAHAM HILL

I LIVE in a 420-square-foot studio. I sleep in a bed that folds down from the wall. I have six dress shirts. I have 10 shallow bowls that I use for salads and main dishes. When people come over for dinner, I pull out my extendable dining room table. I don’t have a single CD or DVD and I have 10 percent of the books I once did.

I have come a long way from the life I had in the late ’90s, when, flush with cash from an Internet start-up sale, I had a giant house crammed with stuff — electronics and cars and appliances and gadgets.

Somehow this stuff ended up running my life, or a lot of it; the things I consumed ended up consuming me. My circumstances are unusual (not everyone gets an Internet windfall before turning 30), but my relationship with material things isn’t.

We live in a world of surfeit stuff, of big-box stores and 24-hour online shopping opportunities. Members of every socioeconomic bracket can and do deluge themselves with products.

There isn’t any indication that any of these things makes anyone any happier; in fact it seems the reverse may be true.

For me, it took 15 years, a great love and a lot of travel to get rid of all the inessential things I had collected and live a bigger, better, richer life with less.

It started in 1998 in Seattle, when my partner and I sold our Internet consultancy company, Sitewerks, for more money than I thought I’d earn in a lifetime.

To celebrate, I bought a four-story, 3,600-square-foot, turn-of-the-century house in Seattle’s happening Capitol Hill neighborhood and, in a frenzy of consumption, bought a brand-new sectional couch (my first ever), a pair of $300 sunglasses, a ton of gadgets, like an Audible.com MobilePlayer (one of the first portable digital music players) and an audiophile-worthy five-disc CD player. And, of course, a black turbocharged Volvo. With a remote starter!

I was working hard for Sitewerks’ new parent company, Bowne, and didn’t have the time to finish getting everything I needed for my house. So I hired a guy named Seven, who said he had been Courtney Love’s assistant, to be my personal shopper. He went to furniture, appliance and electronics stores and took Polaroids of things he thought I might like to fill the house; I’d shuffle through the pictures and proceed on a virtual shopping spree.

My success and the things it bought quickly changed from novel to normal. Soon I was numb to it all. The new Nokia phone didn’t excite me or satisfy me. It didn’t take long before I started to wonder why my theoretically upgraded life didn’t feel any better and why I felt more anxious than before.

My life was unnecessarily complicated. There were lawns to mow, gutters to clear, floors to vacuum, roommates to manage (it seemed nuts to have such a big, empty house), a car to insure, wash, refuel, repair and register and tech to set up and keep working. To top it all off, I had to keep Seven busy. And really, a personal shopper? Who had I become? My house and my things were my new employers for a job I had never applied for.

It got worse. Soon after we sold our company, I moved east to work in Bowne’s office in New York, where I rented a 1,900-square-foot SoHo loft that befit my station as a tech entrepreneur. The new pad needed furniture, housewares, electronics, etc. — which took more time and energy to manage.

AND because the place was so big, I felt obliged to get roommates — who required more time, more energy, to manage. I still had the Seattle house, so I found myself worrying about two homes. When I decided to stay in New York, it cost a fortune and took months of cross-country trips — and big headaches — to close on the Seattle house and get rid of the all of the things inside.

I’m lucky, obviously; not everyone gets a windfall from a tech start-up sale. But I’m not the only one whose life is cluttered with excess belongings.

In a study published last year titled “Life at Home in the Twenty-First Century,” researchers at U.C.L.A. observed 32 middle-class Los Angeles families and found that all of the mothers’ stress hormones spiked during the time they spent dealing with their belongings. Seventy-five percent of the families involved in the study couldn’t park their cars in their garages because they were too jammed with things.

Our fondness for stuff affects almost every aspect of our lives. Housing size, for example, has ballooned in the last 60 years. The average size of a new American home in 1950 was 983 square feet; by 2011, the average new home was 2,480 square feet. And those figures don’t provide a full picture. In 1950, an average of 3.37 people lived in each American home; in 2011, that number had shrunk to 2.6 people. This means that we take up more than three times the amount of space per capita than we did 60 years ago.

Apparently our supersize homes don’t provide space enough for all our possessions, as is evidenced by our country’s $22 billion personal storage industry.

What exactly are we storing away in the boxes we cart from place to place? Much of what Americans consume doesn’t even find its way into boxes or storage spaces, but winds up in the garbage.

The Natural Resources Defense Council reports, for example, that 40 percent of the food Americans buy finds its way into the trash.

Enormous consumption has global, environmental and social consequences. For at least 335 consecutive months, the average temperature of the globe has exceeded the average for the 20th century. As a recent report for Congress explained, this temperature increase, as well as acidifying oceans, melting glaciers and Arctic Sea ice are “primarily driven by human activity.” Many experts believe consumerism and all that it entails — from the extraction of resources to manufacturing to waste disposal — plays a big part in pushing our planet to the brink. And as we saw with Foxconn and the recent Beijing smog scare, many of the affordable products we buy depend on cheap, often exploitive overseas labor and lax environmental regulations.

Does all this endless consumption result in measurably increased happiness?

In a recent study, the Northwestern University psychologist Galen V. Bodenhausen linked consumption with aberrant, antisocial behavior. Professor Bodenhausen found that “Irrespective of personality, in situations that activate a consumer mind-set, people show the same sorts of problematic patterns in well-being, including negative affect and social disengagement.” Though American consumer activity has increased substantially since the 1950s, happiness levels have flat-lined.

I DON’T know that the gadgets I was collecting in my loft were part of an aberrant or antisocial behavior plan during the first months I lived in SoHo. But I was just going along, starting some start-ups that never quite started up when I met Olga, an Andorran beauty, and fell hard. My relationship with stuff quickly came apart.

I followed her to Barcelona when her visa expired and we lived in a tiny flat, totally content and in love before we realized that nothing was holding us in Spain. We packed a few clothes, some toiletries and a couple of laptops and hit the road. We lived in Bangkok, Buenos Aires and Toronto with many stops in between.

A compulsive entrepreneur, I worked all the time and started new companies from an office that fit in my solar backpack. I created some do-gooder companies like We Are Happy to Serve You, which makes a reusable, ceramic version of the iconic New York City Anthora coffee cup and TreeHugger.com, an environmental design blog that I later sold to Discovery Communications. My life was full of love and adventure and work I cared about. I felt free and I didn’t miss the car and gadgets and house; instead I felt as if I had quit a dead-end job.

The relationship with Olga eventually ended, but my life never looked the same. I live smaller and travel lighter. I have more time and money. Aside from my travel habit — which I try to keep in check by minimizing trips, combining trips and purchasing carbon offsets — I feel better that my carbon footprint is significantly smaller than in my previous supersized life.

Intuitively, we know that the best stuff in life isn’t stuff at all, and that relationships, experiences and meaningful work are the staples of a happy life.

I like material things as much as anyone. I studied product design in school. I’m into gadgets, clothing and all kinds of things. But my experiences show that after a certain point, material objects have a tendency to crowd out the emotional needs they are meant to support.

I wouldn’t trade a second spent wandering the streets of Bangkok with Olga for anything I’ve owned. Often, material objects take up mental as well as physical space.

I’m still a serial entrepreneur, and my latest venture is to design thoughtfully constructed small homes that support our lives, not the other way around. Like the 420-square-foot space I live in, the houses I design contain less stuff and make it easier for owners to live within their means and to limit their environmental footprint. My apartment sleeps four people comfortably; I frequently have dinner parties for 12. My space is well-built, affordable and as functional as living spaces twice the size. As the guy who started TreeHugger.com, I sleep better knowing I’m not using more resources than I need. I have less — and enjoy more.

My space is small. My life is big.

Graham Hill is the founder of LifeEdited.com and TreeHugger.com.

I truly <3 Hongkong's transport system

Now that everyone n his uncle are raving about China’s Special Administrative Region’s seamless connectivity treat for commuters — including the Straits Times which has begun rolling out magnum opus-like pieces about Hongkong’s transport system eg Sep 23 by xueying@sph.com is one (Pointers from HK’s public transport) — I feel i must trumpet that I’ve been singing that system’s praise (as compared to our abysmal one) since 2009!

Let me gather the links right here for friends and enemies who drop by this site to savour! Remember, I sang HK’s praise first 🙄

https://singaporegirl.wordpress.com/2012/03/28/govt-mr-lui-lta-just-dont-get-it/

https://singaporegirl.wordpress.com/2010/09/07/in-the-old-days-arguments-dont-fly-any-more/

https://singaporegirl.wordpress.com/2010/04/21/lta-gimme-seamless-travel-lah/

https://singaporegirl.wordpress.com/2009/02/24/eats-hk-luowu-macau/

https://singaporegirl.wordpress.com/2009/02/22/plenty-went-right-starting-with-transport/

PS: Our G is getting it right by asking — more effective to demand in this situation — that shopping mall owners better get their act together n build links between their premises and/or our MRT stations. That’s why Hongkong’s MTR works so well. Even if unlike HK, G and SMRT don’t normally own the properties on and around the MRT stations, but it’s NO excuse to say linkages can’t be made. Let Parliament start cracking the whip, I say!

Me & 3 taxi rides

OK, as stated in my Dec 6 post — Run over by transport costs — I would share with visitors what I paid for three taxi rides I took on Tuesday, after ComfortDelgro raised fares and SMRT panting to do the same.

Actually, my cab rides weren’t taken to check how much fare rises are hitting my pocket. I took taxis out of simple necessity, as my trusty workhorse, the 6.5 year old Hyundai Accent, had to go in for service.

Sure I could have tried to get home after dropping off my car via bus and MRT — tho for the life of me I’ve no idea how to get from Alexandra Road to the Balmoral Road vicinity where I live.

I vaguely know the Redhill and Commonwealth stations are nearby and I could take the MRT to City Hall or Raffles Place and then change lines to get to Newton.

From there, I could take a bus (not sure what number?) and after two stops and a short walk, I would be home.

But I’m not so short of cash and so long on time that I would want to fiddle around with this option, especially when I needed to get from the Komoco workshop to the MRT in the first place — and that might involve a taxi ride, as I know of no nearby buses that cover that stretch.

Hence not surprisingly I opted for a cab — all the way home.

The fare was $7.60 and I gave the cabbie $8, adding “no need to gimme change”, because he was exactly the sort of driver I like — he took my instructions on the route to take without demurring; he didn’t try to engage me in small talk (a huge plus!); he spoke good English yet listened to a Mandarin radio station and kept the volume just right which in my books mean decent background noise that didn’t deafened in the close confines of a vehicle.

My fare was not much different from previous rides. Perhaps it’s because I took a Trans-Cab which unlike Comfort hasn’t raised prices — yet!

Soon afterwards, I took a bus from home for lunch with friends at Bukit Timah Plaza. It was a breeze. Four different buses ran from outside my home to the Shell Station opposite BT Plaza where I got off. The TIBS bus was a lot faster than if I had driven, and this was after adding the time spent crossing the overhead bridge and a short walk!

Perhaps because it was such a breeze that I decided to bus-home after lunch and a short shopping spree at Fairprice. Baaaad mistake!

The bus stop wasn’t outside BT Plaza as I was led to believe by several shop keepers I asked in the shopping centre but involved a hike across an overhead bridge that spanned highways and below flyovers. And to get to that overhead bridge I had to make several inquiries and suffered two wrong directions!

Weighed down by shopping and the muggy weather, I mentally scolded myself for not opting to take a taxi right outside the Plaza, instead of trying to catch a bus — when i discovered that the bus stop was actually on Jalan Anak Bukit and only two buses ran anywhere near where I call home.

Then it dawned on me I would have to cross another overhead bridge that spanned Dunearn and Bukit Timah Roads as well as the Bt Timah canal in order to get home, as the bus stop was on the Dunearn Road side. By then the blisters on my feet were screaming so badly that i caved in.

I-will-take-a-cab-home.

Alas, that’s easier said than done. Six taxis with the green lite on their roofs sailed by nonchalantly but refused to stop. Perhaps it was because of the bus stop but surely not, since I stood well away from it.

So when a Comfort cab that had seen better days stopped, I leapt into it with such relief and gratitude that must have given the driver the unspoken impression I was a friendly passenger.

Baaaad mistake on his part. What the XXXX would I be interested in his being unable to get buah keras at the Pasir Panjang wholesale centre and that he would be heading to the Victoria Wholesale Market to check after he dropped me? What the XXXX would I care that the buah keras was for his Christmas curry?

He kept spraying me with information about his activities , despite my disinterested grunts. Worse, he started crooning to some sucky songs on the radio.

I decided to give him pointed directions on how to get to my destination. Then he had the cheek to contradict me after I had guided him into Stevens Road! When I told him to turn left into Balmoral Road, he said “no, it should be turn right”. Then the road sign loomed large as life with the arrow showing left for Balmoral Road.

Instead of letting his mistake go without comment — I wasn’t going to say anything — he tried to explain and justify. I kept stoically silent. Not even a grunt of acknowledgement.

It wasn’t till we had turn into my condo that he stopped prattling.

I noted the fare on the meter and handed him $8 for a $.7.40 fare. But unlike for the morning cabbie, I put out my hand for the 40-cent change.

I’m mean like that.

Still, if any taxi uncle or auntie is reading this, please take it as a lesson that you shouldn’t initiate the conversation. It’s up to the passener, for crying out loud!

Soon after I got home, Komoco called to say my car is ready to be picked up. I cussed. It was close to 5pm and the taxi witching time.

Yet with a tweak to my favourite Hail Mary parking prayer, I got taxi within five minutes. It was a Comfort cab — at last. Perhaps it was because of my prayer or perhaps other commuters avoided taking Comfort.

No matter. The driver was thankfully again the silent type who after noting where I wanted to go and the route I wanted to take, drove with his lips sealed. Better still, even his radio was off!

I got to the Alexandra Road workshop in now time at all.

And the fare? Mr Silent pointed to the meter. $6.94!

Huh?

I gave him $7 and a thank you, keep the change.

He said nothing and drove off!

The conclusion after 3 rides? Despite the Comfort price hike, the pain hasn’t kicked in — yet. Only time will tell!

What I don’t need time to tell me is that it’s a blistered life for those who have no option other than public transport — be it bus, MRT or walk! 🙄

From 1st world to the 3rd?

Poor SMRT! I heard the news on 93.8 Live — while driving home — of the breakdown on the North South Line at the peak apres work hours!

This coming hot on the heels of the break down fiasco on the Circle Line makes me ask:

Is it just a case of baaaaad luck or is it the first manifestation of SG going from First World back to the Third 😦 from whence we came in less than two generations?

Run over by transport costs

The ComfortDelgro taxi price increase really caps many months of runaway transport cost increases.

I seldom take taxis; yet whenever I do I’m shocked by how much it costs!

It used to be around $6 from the Alexandra Road workshop to my home and then back again: one trip to drop off my car for servicing; another to pick up my car after servicing.

In the last two service sessions, I was surprised to see the fare being close to $10 per trip.

Guess next week when I send my car for servicing, it could be $12 or more per trip.

Will keep you posted on this!

MBS vs Hawker: MBS real winner

Why do I say this when Marina Bay Sands had to cough up $417,000 of winnings to the vegetarian food stall owner — Ms Choo Hong Eng — when initially it was prepared to give her only $50,000 and a car worth $258,962?

Simple sums clearly show that MBS is now $100,000 poorer by buckling in to her claims.

Yet look at it another way.

Ever since Ms Choo won that big jackpot at the slot machine she was playing — I’ve not been able to find out which one — on Oct18, MBS has seldom been out of the news, nay headlines!

While its dispute over the winnings might not win MBS brownie points with the public, I won’t be in the least bit surprised if the fact that one could win as much as $400,000+ at the MBS slot machines is what sticks in most people’s memory.

Not bad to achieve such stickiness in the headlines and the public’s recall — and all for just $100,000 more, which would be peanuts in MBS normal publicity budget! 😆

MBS really struck it lucky with Ms Choo who was so dogged in her pursuit of her rights — “It’s a matter of principle. I just want my money, not a cent more, not a cent less” —
and didn’t mind facing the full blast of publicity to lay her hands on the winning lolly.

Had the winner been completely pragmatic (like moi) and also didn’t have the stomach to eye-ball a multi-million$ corporation like MBS, the whole episode won’t even have made a filler in the media, let alone the reams of reports on air and in print, with even reporters from Hongkong waiting 3 hours at her food stall in Geylang East to hear her story — at least that’s what Ms Choo said.

Indeed, MBS would have got little publicity mileage even if the winner had been dogged about pursuing her rights but was ultra cautious about flaunting her sudden windfall–  in the words of Goody2shoez ,  “the flip side of such publicity is that Ms Choo probably has to sleep with one eye open for a while, and even if her story reveals a no-nonsense feisty character about her, the very fact that she’s an ordinary person, doing an ordinary job, does put her and her family in an unnerving, and quite unnecessary, spotlight. If I were in her shoes, the first thing I’d buy for myself would be a bodyguard.”

Indeed, I think that’s what most normal winners would do, no matter how “hao lian” they are. But our Lucky Hawker Lady appears to have not a single cautious bone in her body.

Indeed, on Thursday Nov 10 lunch time, as it was the 15th day of the 10th month by the Lunar calendar I decided to swing by Ms Choo’s vegetarian stall at Blk 134 Geylang East Ave 1, to lunch vegetarian and then kaypoh a bit.

I googled for her address which was there for all to see. The location wasn’t difficult to find. Because at one end of her block is the more famous Loving Hut vegetarian cafe (used to be at POMO, where the gambling giant Singapore Pools is the anchor tenant, but it now has only one upmarket outlet — at Suntec City).

superlicious -- good to last mouthful

I confess I was more after food than the $400,000-lady. It was only after I settled for the Taiwan beehoon (left) at $3.50 for a cook-on-the-spot order from her rival stall, and after I had settled down to eat that i discovered I was sitting right next to the table where Lucky Lady was holding court aka being interviewed by Razor TV. 

So I decided to take a pix of this lady who took on Sheldon Adelson and won. She nary blinked an eyelash when I aimed my fone cam at her and snapped.

Woman who took on Sheldon Adelson

Indeed, Ms Choo is no ordinary hawker.

  • From her various interviews, it appears she’s no stranger to casinos. Somewhere, some time ago, it appears she’s won $280,000 at a casino. Also, she’s no stranger to MBS, apparently having acted as guide to friends from Macau, Hongkong, Thailand and Taiwan over the months. Indeed when she got $400K lucky, she was staying at the MBS hotel.
  • She’s not your typical hawker scratching out a living. Eleven years ago, when she adopted two girls at one go, she already lived in a semi-D and employed foreign domestic workers.

Hopefully, the media hounds who have been hounding her will not give up their pursuit of her to continue peeling the onion.

Btw, the way she’s been able to handle the media and connect with the ground makes her a natural candidate for the next General Election.

And should she stand on the People’s Action Party ticket, she would put the likes of Lee Bee Wah in the shade. And should anyone, online or off, try to do a Tin Pei Ling on her, I’m sure she would have them for breakfast, without spitting out the bones.

She may sell vegetarian food but it doesn’t mean she’s not up to making mince of those who cross her path. Ask MBS. Unless it’s all an elaborate publicity stunt? 🙄